Random Moments That Change Our Lives (And a Contest!)

by Kassandra Lamb

Another author’s recent post, about how a random conversation changed her career dramatically, got me thinking of a few such random moments that have affected my life.

In a minute, I’ll tell you about my biggest random, life-changing moment, but first…

There is nothing more random than a pandemic.

What we are going through right now as a country and throughout the world is almost beyond comprehension. And it is likely to change our lives in certain ways, for better or worse, forever.

It would probably be worthwhile to give some thought to how each of us wants our lives to change, so that we can take control of that process as much as possible. More on this in a bit. Now back to my story.

The random moment that changed my life.

random moments that change our lives -- the glass ceilng
Even a lovely glass ceiling will still give you a headache 🙂

In my late twenties, I was trying to get ahead in the business world (we’re talking early 1980s) and banging my head rather regularly on the glass ceiling. I had a toddler, and I was very tired of working 40 hours a week, plus 10 hours of commute time, to make peanuts.

If I was going to be away from my son for that many hours, I wanted to be doing something more meaningful and more lucrative. But I had no idea what.

Around that time, my husband went to a hypnotherapist to quit smoking. He was worried about the secondhand smoke in the house. He was so successful that I went too. We both stopped smoking, which was the planned outcome.

But there was another unexpected outcome as well. I was fascinated by the hypnosis. I had a bachelors degree in psychology, and as I sat in the comfy chair in the hypnotherapist’s office and listened to his droning voice, a little part of my brain was thinking, “I could do this.”

So I enrolled in graduate school to get the required credentials, studied hypnosis on the side (there were no college classes on it; still aren’t at most schools), and investigated what I needed to do to set up a private practice as a hypnotherapist.

Two years later, I had a thriving practice. I wasn’t making great money but it was better than I had been making in the business world. And I had control over my schedule. I worked four 8 to 10-hour days, one of them Saturday, and was home two weekdays, which meant my son was only in daycare part-time.

And I was helping people. I’ve never looked back, other than to wonder occasionally how different things would be, if I hadn’t had that random experience that changed my life.

So back to current events…

random moments that change our lives -- learning not to take things for granted, like toilet paper

I haven’t totally sorted out what may change permanently in my life after this craziness is over. I’ve certainly come to appreciate certain things that I once took for granted…like my husband, and unlimited supplies of toilet paper.

(Not that those two are of equal importance. 😀 )

I’ve also been touched by the generosity of strangers to each other. And the bravery of those who are doing the “essential” tasks that keep our country running, from the medical personnel to the truck drivers to the guys who collect the garbage.

I think it behooves us to give some conscious thought to how we want to change ourselves and/or our lives in the future. What positive meaning can we find in this very negative event?

How do you hope this pandemic will change the country, the world and/or your life for the better? (Please, no politics!)


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Posted by Kassandra Lamb. Kassandra is a retired psychotherapist turned mystery writer. She is the author of the Kate Huntington psychological mysteries, set in her native Maryland, and a new series, the Marcia Banks and Buddy cozy mysteries, set in Central Florida.

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  • Reply
    Tom Intiso
    April 14, 2020 at 1:16 pm

    What an incredible… I find myself unable to find the appropriate word, which is odd since I am also a writer, myself. I want to say insight, or perhaps merely anecdote, but neither fully captures the level of awareness that this kind of reflective thinking promotes.

    In my own life, at least, I have found that upon reflection on those times of significant change and growth, it is most often not a single random occurrence, but rather a complex chain of highly unlikely events, each one independently placing me in the perfect position to respond to the next “link” when it occurs.

    So Thank you for sharing your own experience. It has prompted me to reflect on my own life once again. I am, as ever, humbled as I contemplate the intricacies of such seemingly random events which ultimately conspire to bring great good into the world.

    • Reply
      Kassandra Lamb
      April 14, 2020 at 4:58 pm

      And thank you, Tom, for your insightful comment. Sometimes looking back on such events or chains of events, we realize that they perhaps were not as random as they seemed at the time. 🙂

    • Reply
      April 17, 2020 at 6:41 pm

      Think that life has been amazing…it’s been good, it’s been bad, it’s been rough..and smooth. But always changing. Overcome and adapt. Pack it up and move on. Enjoy each day.. there is light ahead. .. I have family that are over protective, family that love me, family that can really get on my last nerve…and me on theirs…but we are family. We love, we fight, we support. fortunately in even these difficult times they still reach out to help others…so we’re doing good.

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        Kassandra Lamb
        April 26, 2020 at 7:17 pm

        I think you’ve hit the nail on the head, Renee. Take the bad with the good and celebrate the latter. Cherish family, even when they are plucking our last nerve (I’ve got a few family members like that too). And try to help others!

  • Reply
    Barbara Harrison
    April 17, 2020 at 5:35 pm

    I am hoping we will all remember that people are more important than things and that having a lot of money doesn’t automatically make someone superior to those who have little.

    • Reply
      Kassandra Lamb
      April 26, 2020 at 7:18 pm

      Amen, Barbara! Nothing is more leveling or more humbling than a pandemic.

  • Reply
    Deborah Duran
    April 17, 2020 at 8:55 pm

    I have enjoyed reading your email and blog pages and also the replies from various persons. I personally think that over all good things will come from all the new changes throughout the world.

    • Reply
      Kassandra Lamb
      April 18, 2020 at 12:21 am

      I like to think so too, Deborah. I’m not sure what shape they will take, but some good things will come out of this.

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