by Kassandra Lamb
Motherhood is probably the most difficult job any woman ever attempts. And yet most of us take on the job with little foreknowledge of what we’re getting into. So I thought I’d come up with a job description, for those who are considering applying.
General Description of Duties:
Applicant will be charged with the care, guidance and training of small creatures who have no means of communication, no control over their bodily fluids, and no initial understanding of danger, morality nor the needs of others.
Applicant will be on duty 24/7, year in and year out. (If applicant has a partner helping with the job, occasional short vacations may be possible.)
Worrier—Applicant will be required to ruminate frequently about whether or not her charges are safe and are receiving optimal care. This may involve lost sleep.
Nurse—On occasion, applicant will be required to stay up at night and/or stay home from other activities (no matter how important) to tend to sick charges. This may also include cleaning services when bodily fluids become involved. Treatment of minor injuries may also be required.
Dietician/chef—Applicant will be required to plan and prepare nutritious meals and snacks throughout each day, 365 days per year (except during those brief vacations if her partner is willing and able to take over this duty; otherwise, meals may need to be pre-planned).
Chauffeur—Applicant will be required to provide or arrange for all transportation of her charges to multiple locations, including but not limited to: school, athletic and social activities, medical appointments, and the emergency room.
Counselor—Applicant will be required to provide guidance and emotional support to her charges, although they will often be oblivious to her emotional needs.
Any other duties that may arise (which may be substantial).
At least a basic understanding of childhood diseases, first aid, nutrition, child development, psychology, and conflict mediation (if there is more than one charge).
Unlimited patience and the ability to function on minimal sleep.
Infinite quantities of unconditional love.
Compensation and Benefits:
Applicant will receive room and board (which she may have to help pay for).
No sick leave is allowed. Full retirement is not possible; semi-retirement occurs whenever the last of applicant’s charges leaves the domicile. Many daily duties will no longer be required, but worrying will continue until applicant’s death. Also, applicant may feel obligated to lend or give money to her grown charges at times.
No monetary compensation is given; however, applicant will receive weird little homemade presents and cards and lots of love from her charges. She may possibly someday be rewarded with grandchildren.
And by having her grown charge admit to her: “This parenting thing is really hard, Mom! How’d you do it?”*
(*My son’s exact words when his first child was three months old. 🙂 )
HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY from all of us at misterio press!!
Posted by Kassandra Lamb. Kassandra is a retired psychotherapist turned mystery writer. She is the author of the Kate Huntington psychological mysteries, set in her native Maryland, and a new series, the Marcia Banks and Buddy cozy mysteries, set in Central Florida.
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Barb TaubMay 14, 2017 at 2:59 am
So true! Thanks for sharing. And happy Mother’s Day!
Kassandra LambMay 14, 2017 at 2:33 pm
Thanks, Barb! Same to you.
Vinnie HansenMay 16, 2017 at 12:07 pm
And to think my mom had 10 of us and then went on to have a career in education!
Kassandra LambMay 16, 2017 at 12:48 pm
Your mom was a saint, Vinnie. But then you already knew that, didn’t you?
Shannon EspositoMay 17, 2017 at 11:34 am
LOL… well, when you put it that way, being a little crazy should be in the job description, too. We do go into it all without any training (or awareness of the difficulty, which is probably a good thing) except for how we were raised. Here’s to all the moms who set a good example for us to follow! (And those who made the mistakes first, so we can learn from them :-))
Kassandra LambMay 17, 2017 at 9:14 pm