4 More Things To Do (or Learn) by the Time You’re 64

by Kassandra Lamb

Sunday I turned 64 — the age that the Beatles made famous… “Will you still need me, will you still…”

Two years ago, I posted about 15 Things We Should Do (Or Learn) by the Time We’re 62. I re-ran that post recently. Now I am adding four more things to that list.

1. Learn to make life easier by letting others help.

I’m a cussedly independent person, but at the same time, nothing makes me feel better than helping out a friend. That dichotomy in my personality always reminds me of one of my grandmother’s sayings (I’m pretty sure she coined it because of me):

Tis more blessed to give than to receive, but it’s dang hard to give when no one is willing to receive.

If people volunteer to help make your life easier, make them happy. Let them!

2. Make a bucket list of places you want to see and check off at least two of them a year (more if you’re able).

One of the saddest things about my mother’s death was that she never saw Alaska. Not because Alaska is the be all and end all of travel destinations (although it is very interesting and absolutely gorgeous).

What made it so sad was that she really wanted to see it, and never did.

Great Wall of China (public domain)

Great Wall of China (public domain)

After she died, my stepfather started traveling like crazy (he and my mom traveled; it’s just they didn’t realize there was an expiration date).

For a few years there, he went on at least four or five trips a year. Short trips and long ones. He’s seen the Great Wall of China and the penguins on Antarctica. (Seriously, he has.)

There will come a day when travel is too hard, and therefore not fun anymore. So don’t put off that bucket list!

3. Find a form of exercise that you enjoy, or at least tolerate well, and then do it regularly.

For me this is Zumba and brisk dog walks. Nothing does more for our health than exercise. And it energizes us.

Come on, Mom, let's pick up that pace!

Come on, Mom. What are you waiting for?

Insomnia is a common problem as we age, and on days when I didn’t sleep well the night before, I’m very tempted to skip exercising. Instead, I tell myself I will “go easy on it.”

This helps convince me to put in the Zumba DVD or get out the dog’s leash. Sometimes I do “go easy,” but other times I get into the rhythm of dancing or walking and forget I’m supposed to be going slower.

Afterwards, I almost always feel better (not to mention self-righteous 😉 )

4. Embrace aging.

You might as well, because fighting it does no good. If you try to fight it, you will just spend your last few decades on this planet fluctuating between denial and frustration.

Aging sucks. The list of things we can still readily do is shrinking and the list of things that are a distant memory grows longer. But that doesn’t mean we can’t still enjoy life and squeeze every ounce of delight out of the days, weeks, months, years we have left.

One great thing about getting older — everyday is Saturday. You get to choose what you want to do on any given day…

Here’s what I’ve been up to lately. I wrote another Marcia Banks and Buddy book. 😀  And today is it’s official release day!!  Woot!

How about you?  What’s on your bucket list?

Last day at $1.99 ~ ARSENIC and YOUNG LACY, A Marcia Banks and Buddy Mystery, Book #2

book cover

Sweet, adorable Lacy has stolen Marcia Banks’ heart, but money is tight. Like it or not, the service dog trainer needs to complete the human phase of the training and deliver the dog to her new owner in order to get paid. But the ex-Army nurse client turns out to be a challenging trainee. On top of her existing neuroses–which go beyond the psychological damage from a sexual assault during her second tour in Afghanistan–the veteran is now being stalked.

When Marcia receives a bizarre warning to stay away from her client and Lacy is also caught in the stalker’s malicious orbit, Sheriff Will Haines steps in to investigate. Marcia finds this both endearing and annoying, especially when he expects her to stay on the sidelines. The training fee would make her solvent again, but how can she put her dogs at risk?

Maybe Marcia should be more worried about herself, since the stalker has decided to pay her off in a very different way.



Posted by Kassandra Lamb. Kassandra is a retired psychotherapist turned mystery writer. She is the author of the Kate Huntington psychological suspense series, set in her native Maryland, and a new series, the Marcia Banks and Buddy cozy mysteries, set in Central Florida.

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  • Reply
    K.B. Owen
    September 6, 2016 at 10:59 am

    Hey Kass, these are great tips! I didn’t know you do Zumba. You go, girl!

    I’m on board with all of these. I definitely want to travel more (maybe get to see you, whenever FLA isn’t having a hurricane, that is). Now that I finally own a passport, I need to convince hubby to get out there (he doesn’t like to spend money, LOL).

    Congrats on book #2 of a fab series! So exciting!

    • Reply
      Kassandra Lamb
      September 6, 2016 at 12:15 pm

      Thanks, Kathy!

      And by all means, come on down! Best time to visit is February or March (when it’s still cold up North). Our springs here are gorgeous.

  • Reply
    Vinnie Hansen
    September 6, 2016 at 12:50 pm

    Great list, Kass. Like Kathy, I didn’t know you did Zumba. 🙂 Maybe we’ll go together some day and I can embarrass you with my lack of “moves.”

    Congrats on the new release!

    • Reply
      Kassandra Lamb
      September 6, 2016 at 2:11 pm

      We can both embarrass ourselves, Vinnie. I don’t look pretty but I get the job done. 😉

  • Reply
    Marcy Kennedy
    September 6, 2016 at 1:46 pm

    This was such a great post. I hit 35 this year, and between that and my husband’s stroke, this has been a wake-up call year for me. We’ve made some changes so far, and we have more to come. I think what I realized is that you never actually reach “tomorrow” so you have to start thinking about “what can I do today.”

    • Reply
      Kassandra Lamb
      September 6, 2016 at 2:13 pm

      Glad you liked it, Marcy. So true that tomorrow is forever elusive. There is only Today!!

  • Reply
    shannon esposito
    September 6, 2016 at 2:05 pm

    I love your wisdom (something else that only comes with age!) I want to travel desperately but keep putting it off… when they kids are older, when we have more money, blah blah blah. The time is flying by and the world isn’t getting any safer. Time to do something. Happy release day!

    • Reply
      Kassandra Lamb
      September 6, 2016 at 2:14 pm

      Thanks, Shan! Do that traveling as soon as you can. Tom and I are now in what feels like a race some days, to get in everything we really want to visit before we’re too old to enjoy it.

  • Reply
    Kristy K. James
    September 6, 2016 at 4:09 pm

    Love your list … and so true about traveling. Except I will add that for me, I’ve never enjoyed traveling – except for long drives to see fall colors. I have a blast at the destination once I arrive, but packing to go, unpacking once home again, and dealing with rude fellow travelers in between … yeah, not so much fun. 😀

    I also agree on the exercise. It’ll be a while before I’m singing that Beatles song – but when I am, I want to be able to say I’m doing things like Zumba, or Pilates, or bungee jumping. Just kidding on the bungee jumping. The only thing I’ll jump off is a curb. 😀

    • Reply
      Kassandra Lamb
      September 6, 2016 at 8:05 pm

      LOL You had me worried there for a minute, Kristy! I don’t think bungee jumping is nearly as good for your health as Zumba or Pilates. 😉

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