Veterans, Gratitude and My Post-Menopausal Fu Manchu (plus boxed sets)

November is a crowded month. We have Veterans Day, Thanksgiving, Christmas shopping, plus another event I’ll get to in a moment.

First, a big salute and thank you to our veterans! They endure and sacrifice so much and I think everyone would agree that we should take care of their needs when they come home. Did you know that Gulf War era II (deployed since Sept, 2001) veterans’ unemployment rate, while on the decline, is still almost 3% higher than the national average? Come on, America, we can do better than that!

On a lighter note, here’s the hubs in his Army days!

young serviceman

Handsome devil, isn’t he? And dig that psychedelic, early 70’s wallpaper in the barracks. He says they only got away with that because they were deployed out in the middle of nowhere.

If you look close you’ll see the beginnings of the mustache he grew in the Army, and sported for several decades after. Which brings us to that other thing that’s happening in November.

One of my online writer friends, Susie Lindau, is a breast cancer survivor, But she hasn’t just survived and endured, she has thrived and inspired (see her Boob Reports). And now she’s participating in No Shave November or Movember, an initiative by the American Cancer Society to raise consciousness about cancer, and also money.

The idea is that you let your hair grow wherever it may–mustaches and/or beards for men, legs and/or underarms for women–and then donate what you normally spend in a month on self-grooming to the cause of fighting cancer.

I certainly plan to make a donation, but this whole thing got me thinking about menopause and hair.

After menopause, women’s hormones shift. Well, duh. You already knew that. But what you may or may not have known is that it isn’t just estrogen and progesterone that go down. Testosterone also goes down some in women post-menopause.

Wait! What? Testosterone in women? Yup, women have small amounts of testosterone produced by their ovaries and adrenal glands. This testosterone is responsible for sex drive (yay!) and body hair (nay!)

So here’s what happens hair-wise for older women like myself. Less testosterone equals less body hair. I now shave my legs every other week instead of every other day. But the little bit of testosterone we have left in our systems isn’t as cancelled out by estrogen (which discourages facial hair). So now we have hair on our chinny-chin-chins. And mustaches. Oh, goodie!

I may not have to shave as often but I spend a lot of time in front of the mirror plucking out my fu manchu, and bitching mentally about how unfair it all is.

So what hit me right between the eyes about Susie’s post was this – November is also the month of Thanksgiving, of gratitude. Instead of bemoaning the fact that I now have a mustache, I’m going to focus more on being grateful: for my health, for my wonderful family and great friends, and for not having to shave my legs all that often!

And in response to Susie’s “I’ll show you mine if you’ll show me yours” dare, here’s my fu manchu!

Kass's photo with fu manchu mustache drawn in
Another thing we at misterio press are grateful for are our wonderful readers, and to show our gratitude we’ve put together boxed sets of some of our books for Christmas-giving ease (or your own reading pleasure). Volume 1 has just released and Volume 2 will be out in December.

Women of Mystery boxed set cover

Just $4.99 ~ three books for the price of one. Yay!!!

WOMEN of MYSTERY, Volume 1 (click on titles below to see the descriptions):

Dangerous and Unseemly, A Concordia Wells Mystery

Collateral Casualties, A Kate Huntington Mystery

The Alchemical Detective, A Riga Hayworth Mystery

Available at AMAZONBARNES & NOBLE,  and KOBO

How about you? What are you grateful for? And just how hairy can you get for a good cause?

Posted by Kassandra Lamb. Kassandra is a retired psychotherapist turned mystery writer. She writes the Kate Huntington mystery series.

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  • Reply
    Susie Lindau (@SusieLindau)
    November 12, 2013 at 12:23 am

    Wow! Thanks so much for the shout! I am digging your stache and will add it to the post! Fantastic!
    Your husband is so handsome! I hope he’s rockin’ the stache too!
    I am so grateful to you! Thanks again and congrats on your set of books!

    • Reply
      Kassandra Lamb
      November 12, 2013 at 11:09 am

      You’re very welcome, Susie! Glad to help spread the word. And you truly are an inspiration.

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    Karen McFarland
    November 12, 2013 at 8:13 pm

    Lol Kassandra, love the mustache! I only wish that I didn’t have to shave my legs as often. Unfortunately, that hasn’t happened yet. But the facial hair, oy! What is up with that? Oh, and on top of knuckle on the big toe?????? Have you ever?

    And I’m with Susie. Your hubby sports a handsome pre-mustache pic. Ha, ha, ha, yes, the ’70’s. That was an interesting time. I was so glad the war had ended, or so they said, because he missed the draft. By inches. And for that I am forever grateful. Not sure if I would have met him otherwise. Best friends for forty years. Yep, I’m grateful. 🙂

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      Karen McFarland
      November 12, 2013 at 8:15 pm

      Lol, sorry about that Kassandra. I meant my hubby missed the draft. Why can’t we edit our comments. Blasted wordpress themes. 🙂

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        Kassandra Lamb
        November 12, 2013 at 8:24 pm

        LOL I knew what you meant, Karen! And thanks! If hubs hadn’t been in the Army, he and I wouldn’t have met. We were introduced by an Army buddy of his who happened to be a good friend of mine from college. Six months later, when we announced our engagement, our friend Irv said, “Gee, I thought you two would hit it off, but not THAT well.” 🙂

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    K.B. Owen
    November 13, 2013 at 8:57 am

    Great post, Kass! One benefit of winter: legs and underarms are hidden. No one needs to know how much you shave, LOL. But I hear ya on the upper lip. That shadow starts to creep in…

    Your hubs is such a cutie! Glad you shared his pic with us. 😉

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      Kassandra Lamb
      November 13, 2013 at 9:21 am

      Thanks, Kathy! A good point about winter clothing covering the hairiness. Afraid that’s not going to make me a fan of winter however. 🙂

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    Emma Burcart
    November 14, 2013 at 6:17 am

    I love the mustache! Although I don’t love what that means I have to look forward to someday. I guess I’ll just think of it as a good excuse to go to the salon. Thanks for the reminder to be grateful! No matter how tough things may be, there is always plenty of good to focus on. 🙂

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      Kassandra Lamb
      November 14, 2013 at 10:43 am

      There you go, Emma! I’ll take any excuse to go to the spa and be pampered awhile. Thanks so much for stopping by!

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